Went to see Caroline in town on Monday.
It's now Wednesday, but I've
not written anything because I'm both lazy and because I didn't want to
say anything that might be reactionary.
Well, we're both alive. Nobody yelled. I only got a little angry. I think
I was a little too bouncey, really. It was somewhat strange and I couldn't
really believe that she actually wasn't angry at me. After so long, it seems
that I may have blown her attitude out of proportion.
Regardless, we wandered around town and chatted.
She didn't remember her last phone call, which means it probably wasn't
too important. She's still lovely. Different, but lovely. And she still
has those mannerisms that were both frustrating and utterly endearing -
on anyone else, those mannerims would be hated, but on her they're just
special, and
appealing. Well, they are.
After walking to the station repeating "She can't touch me", it seems that I
was wrong. She can. I don't handle women overly well, and Caroline... well,
Caroline has always been something special. It's hard to see her married,
and with a daughter (not that I met them!) but I'm happy (I am) that she is.
I'm jealous, of course. I do, it seems, still care for her a lot, and it
hurts like hell to know that she has had such a bad time and that I couldn't
help. But it's no longer - and hasn't been for many years - something I can
do anything about.
Her daughter looks lovely. Well, she's a baby, so there's not a lot you can
say really; a baby is a baby, unless its your own, and babies are cute.
Andrew, I only saw photos of briefly, looks like a nice guy. Again, there's
not a lot else you can say there - what else are you going to say about a
guy who married your ex and makes her happy ?
And so, we reach the final question... am I going to keep in touch, or just
leave things in limbo ? Whilst there are many things I'd still like to know
and I'd like to keep up with her, I think it probably isn't a good idea
overall. She has her life. I have mine (whatever that is!). It took many
years to recover from her first time around and having those same thoughts,
and sleepless nights again isn't really something I want to go through.
That said, I never was one to avoid something that was bad
.
After much messing about, I've now got the IPTables kernel and scripts
working (what appears to be) correctly. Which means that nothing comes in
that wasn't initiated by us, and nothing goes out which we aren't expecting.
There's the usual forward on port 87 for my JFTerm chat client, so that if
you wanted to get me and I was online you only had to connect to that port
and type to talk to me. You really need some form of talker client for that,
but it works with a normal telnet client nonetheless
. So,
gerph.dyndns.org port 87 to chat. Astounding, huh ?
Why, though, was I messing around with iptables when I had a perfectly
working ipchains setup ? Well, it's pretty simple. Because the kernel had
been upgraded to 2.4.18, ipchains were being made obsolete - although they
worked - and consequently would not be able to use the old ftp masquerading
module. This isn't a problem for most sites as they reject the initial
address that I give them (a private allocated address) and my FTP client
switches to PASV mode - having got that code working, I'm quite pleased
with myself
. But, freenetnames - who provide movspclr.co.uk - have got
their firewalling (or FTP server) failing to masquerade their
private network correctly and reply with a 172.16.x.x IP which is also
in a private address range. Consequently, they can't connect to me because
my firewall means I provide an invalid local address, and I can't connect to
them because their firewall means that they provide an invalid local
address.
So, the upgrade to iptables means that my end - at least - can provide a
correctly masqueraded FTP connection and the upload works correctly. It's
really their problem that they've not got PASV working properly, but we
can't have everything, can we ?
As you can see, because of this, the Diary's back now after about a month or
so of absence.
6:05am, and I get a connection on ttylink port with 'muhahaha' from
tarantula.tpgi.com.au. Weird. To paraphrase Mr Jelts, "Hello, whoever you
are!". This is half an hour after I upload the diary saying that you can
connect there... amusing.
Scanning quickly back through the diary for Caroline entries, I find an
entry for 8th October '99
which has a dream about meeting her - there's a small section in July '99 about
meeting her, which is odd, too. The dream, though, is very strange. I do
actually remember it. I remember her being scared and cowering. Whilst I
doubt it has any relation to reality, it seems a little... disturbing now.
It must have been a little affecting back then because I wrote about it.
Any thoughts about this Caroline thing ?
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